In the realm of relationships, the foundation is built on love, trust, and support. When these essential elements are lacking, a relationship can turn toxic. The term ‘toxic relationships’ is gaining prominence in discussions about interpersonal dynamics. But what truly defines a toxic relationship, and when does the toxicity begin?
Defining Toxic Relationships
Lack of Support and Acknowledgment
A toxic relationship is characterised by a dearth of support, understanding, and acknowledgment. Instead of feeling loved, you may experience misunderstanding and non-appreciation. Reciprocity in love and efforts for the relationship becomes a distant concept.
Early Signs and Red Flags
Recognising Early Signs
Toxicity may manifest in the early stages of a relationship. The key is to notice signs and not ignore them. Were there red flags that you chose to overlook? Or were self-doubt and a low sense of self keeping you from acknowledging warning signals?
Gestures of Control
Those seeking genuine connection make efforts to create a loving environment. In contrast, individuals aiming for control exhibit specific gestures. These may include avoiding calls, making you feel wrong for expressing feelings, and defending their behaviour while blaming your reactions.
Identifying Red Flags
Red flags in a toxic relationship may include demeaning behaviour, lack of effort to be with you, constant criticism, insistence on agreement, and creating discomfort in various aspects of your life. Prioritising their needs while dismissing yours becomes a recurring pattern.
The Self-Awareness Journey
People-Pleasing Patterns
To navigate toxic relationships, self-awareness is crucial. Recognise if you tend to be a people-pleaser, always striving to meet others’ expectations at the expense of your well-being.
Anxiety and Fault Acceptance
Assess whether anxiety arises when someone is upset with you, leading you to accept fault even when it may not be justified. Acknowledge the patterns of self-correction to avoid displeasure.
Assuming Sole Responsibility
Question the belief that harmony in a relationship rest solely on your shoulders. A healthy relationship involves shared responsibilities and efforts from both parties.
Correcting Despite Abuse
Reflect on whether, even in the face of abuse, you find yourself consistently correcting your behaviour. This may indicate a need for self-empowerment and boundary-setting.
Trusting Intuition
Trust your intuition. If it signals discomfort or unease, don’t dismiss it. Your instincts are valuable guides in navigating relationships.
The Path to Healing
Prioritise Self-Healing
Before embarking on a new relationship or managing a toxic one, prioritise self-healing. Acknowledge the patterns, understand your needs, and foster a healthy relationship with yourself.
Navigating toxic relationships requires self-awareness, the ability to recognise red flags, and a commitment to healing. Before venturing into new connections or addressing toxicity in existing relationships, invest time in understanding and healing yourself.
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About Mona Singh
Hello, my name is Mona Singh, and I am a Certified Divorce Empowerment Coach & POSH Trainer, supporting professionals worldwide through my online and in-person coaching practice.
I help individuals navigate the emotional, financial, and practical challenges of divorce with clarity, confidence, and resilience. Having personally experienced the complexities of divorce, I deeply understand the emotional rollercoaster it brings and the uncertainty that follows.
I believe divorce is not just an ending—it can be the beginning of self-discovery, empowerment, and growth. Through my coaching, I provide strategic guidance to help professionals make informed decisions, rebuild their confidence, and design a future they truly deserve.
As a writer and speaker, I share insights on emotional healing, relationship dynamics, and self-reinvention. Whether it’s coping with post-divorce grief, navigating co-parenting, or overcoming limiting beliefs, my goal is to support individuals through this life transition with strength and self-assurance.
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